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5 Simple Rules Help Me Reclaim Time And Energy To Build The Life I Want

How to exploit responsibility to manifest your dream life

Have you considered yourself a victim of life? 

I had. 

For years it was the only way I considered myself. But the question is how to go from being the victim to being the master of your fate.

It’s simpler than you think. But never easy. And it requires a particular approach to life. An approach of taking responsibility.

The rewards are:

  • Time and energy to do what you want.
  • Clarity in setting goals.
  • Perseverance.
  • A sense of purpose.

But why is it not easy?

What does taking responsibility mean, and why do you need it? Responsibility is about learning from the consequences of our actions. It’s about admitting when you fcuk up, saying it’s on you, not blaming the weather, the government, or your parents. Then, making an effort to fix it.

This is responsibility.

But do you know what comes with it?  What does your life look like when you run from it, and what does it look like when you face it head-on?

When you run from it you live in a void. Your efforts go in vain. Anything you do feels meaningless. You wake up tired, with no plan to do anything productive. So, you start with your phone. You look at the screen and scroll through all the interesting news from the world. The war, the taxes, the black lives matter. And you think that you get something out of it. That you benefit.

But do you?

Do you feel like your life is progressing? Do you get this feeling of excitement when you go to sleep thinking about the next day? No? But you could.

To ever have a chance of going to sleep eager for another day to happen you must take responsibility for your life. That’s how you escape the void you’ve created.

Because then you can take responsibility for making your dreams come true. No longer can you toss the blame on the circumstances. They are what they are. But you still want your dream.

I’m on this journey. I started trying and failing, and learning and trying again. Now, I can do everything I need to get what I want.  Not at once, but with time. That time would pass anyway, and now I have more than I ever had. I have a calm mind ready to face challenges.

You can get it too. The meaning, the calm mind, the life you dream of. I invite you to jump into the whirlwind of responsibility with me and thrive like never before. Here is how.

Time, Energy, and Responsibility

Now that you know why to take responsibility, it’s time for the how.

In short, you must practice.

I could leave you at it. But I remember how it was for me. A young man with no idea what responsibility is. Not to mention how to live it. So I created five rules to make the practice easier to follow.

They’re complementary. Keep tabs on all of them. Think about them, and find similar situations in your life when you could take responsibility. Then take it. Write your own set of rules. You might want to share them, so another person knows a bit more about what could work for them.

1. Set Goals

Goals help you head in a direction.

Having a goal makes progress visible To see how far you’ve come you should know where you started and where are you going. But the destination is far more important than the starting point. It’s a potential transformation waiting to happen.

Do you know what is the best thing in having a goal?

Embarking on a journey to get it. That’s how you enjoy life. You hop on a train going to what you’d love to have someday. But you enjoy it from the start. Because getting on a train is taking responsibility for the goal.

2. Consequences

The most important step is accepting the consequences of your actions.

This is far more than intentions.  You can have good intentions, and still fcuk someone’s day up.  Then, it counts that you fucked up someone’s day.  Why? 

Because when you own it, you can change it. 

Imagine you argue with your partner. You know you’re right. You have arguments. She has nothing except her pride and emotions. You spit words with venom, assuming she wants to turn things around. But is your goal to be right or to explain what you think? Is your goal to win or to improve your relationship?

You see if you make her furious, and you didn’t mean to, and you’re lucky enough to realize it, what are you left with? A day in which your words hurt someone you value. The only way from there to a lasting relationship is admitting you fcuked up too. Was it her fault in the situation? Oh yes, but your job, if you want to benefit from responsibility, is to focus on your part. The part you can improve.

3. When You Blame, Focus on Yourself

The greatest power in taking responsibility is agency.

When you blame, you deny yourself that power. If it’s not your fault, you won’t think about changing it. If you’re poor due to a greedy government or high housing prices, you may never think about how to earn more money.

Getting anything in life starts from finding out you can get it.

And that’s the whole issue. It’s simple, yet so hard to notice in an environment where no one has money. But if you go a bit deeper, 99% of people who complain about money do exactly nothing to change their circumstances. It’s possible that even if they would they would stay poor, but it’s your responsibility to check that.

Ultimately, you’re responsible for living the life you want.  You’re responsible for how your statements are understood.  You choose how to spend your time.  I know it’s hard, but it’s also powerful.

That’s why it’s so important to work on moments when you know you’re blaming something or someone else. That’s when resources are wasted.  Otherwise, you could start looking for a solution.

4. Emotions and Reactions

Your emotions and feelings are your responsibility.

If someone pissed you off, you let yourself get pissed off.  You did most of the work, maybe even all of it. I’m not talking about an objective assessment of whether someone behaved okay. 

Does it matter? 

It’s you who ends up red with rage like a beet. And that’s exactly what you are, a beet.

Someone took control over your emotions with a few words. And here’s the key moment. If you think it’s the fault of that bad, nefarious person, you do nothing about it. But if you recognize that you’re responsible for your reaction, you can change it.

Maybe it would be better to respond calmly to the provocation.

Or maybe there was no provocation at all. What’s there to worry about? Someone tried to throw you off balance, but they failed. Good for you.

You can control your reactions, only as a result of taking responsibility for them.

5. Be Careful with Words

It’s unfair.

On one hand, I say that you’re responsible for how someone reacts to your words.  On the other, you’re also responsible for your reactions. What’s this about? Are you supposed to be the alpha and omega?  Mother Teresa of the oppressed?  The short answer is – yes. 

Because other people don’t have your knowledge and practice.  And indeed, if you get upset with a client and lose them, that’s your problem.  Sure, maybe you wouldn’t have gotten upset in their shoes, but you see the consequences of your words. Your task isn’t to teach others how to behave but to behave in a way that achieves your intended goal.

Words have power and taking responsibility for them gives that power to you.

Taking responsibility increases the sense of agency over your life.  But don’t overdo it.  You don’t have to be Jesus Christ and take responsibility for everyone.  Start with yourself.  Then take care of your family. And then your community. 

Show us how bravely you handle solving your problems before you start preaching to others.

The source of wealth is inside you.

But to realize its potential you must know who you are. After years of searching, I found a tool that helped me understand myself — a personal journal.

Get My Free Journaling Course to discover who you are, what you want, and how to get it.

Start with 5 minutes a day.

5 Simple Rules Help Me Reclaim Time And Energy To Build The Life I Want

How to exploit responsibility to manifest your dream life

Have you considered yourself a victim of life? 

I had. 

For years it was the only way I considered myself. But the question is how to go from being the victim to being the master of your fate.

It’s simpler than you think. But never easy. And it requires a particular approach to life. An approach of taking responsibility.

The rewards are:

  • Time and energy to do what you want.
  • Clarity in setting goals.
  • Perseverance.
  • A sense of purpose.

But why is it not easy?

What does taking responsibility mean, and why do you need it? Responsibility is about learning from the consequences of our actions. It’s about admitting when you fcuk up, saying it’s on you, not blaming the weather, the government, or your parents. Then, making an effort to fix it.

This is responsibility.

But do you know what comes with it?  What does your life look like when you run from it, and what does it look like when you face it head-on?

When you run from it you live in a void. Your efforts go in vain. Anything you do feels meaningless. You wake up tired, with no plan to do anything productive. So, you start with your phone. You look at the screen and scroll through all the interesting news from the world. The war, the taxes, the black lives matter. And you think that you get something out of it. That you benefit.

But do you?

Do you feel like your life is progressing? Do you get this feeling of excitement when you go to sleep thinking about the next day? No? But you could.

To ever have a chance of going to sleep eager for another day to happen you must take responsibility for your life. That’s how you escape the void you’ve created.

Because then you can take responsibility for making your dreams come true. No longer can you toss the blame on the circumstances. They are what they are. But you still want your dream.

I’m on this journey. I started trying and failing, and learning and trying again. Now, I can do everything I need to get what I want.  Not at once, but with time. That time would pass anyway, and now I have more than I ever had. I have a calm mind ready to face challenges.

You can get it too. The meaning, the calm mind, the life you dream of. I invite you to jump into the whirlwind of responsibility with me and thrive like never before. Here is how.

Time, Energy, and Responsibility

Now that you know why to take responsibility, it’s time for the how.

In short, you must practice.

I could leave you at it. But I remember how it was for me. A young man with no idea what responsibility is. Not to mention how to live it. So I created five rules to make the practice easier to follow.

They’re complementary. Keep tabs on all of them. Think about them, and find similar situations in your life when you could take responsibility. Then take it. Write your own set of rules. You might want to share them, so another person knows a bit more about what could work for them.

1. Set Goals

Goals help you head in a direction.

Having a goal makes progress visible To see how far you’ve come you should know where you started and where are you going. But the destination is far more important than the starting point. It’s a potential transformation waiting to happen.

Do you know what is the best thing in having a goal?

Embarking on a journey to get it. That’s how you enjoy life. You hop on a train going to what you’d love to have someday. But you enjoy it from the start. Because getting on a train is taking responsibility for the goal.

2. Consequences

The most important step is accepting the consequences of your actions.

This is far more than intentions.  You can have good intentions, and still fcuk someone’s day up.  Then, it counts that you fucked up someone’s day.  Why? 

Because when you own it, you can change it. 

Imagine you argue with your partner. You know you’re right. You have arguments. She has nothing except her pride and emotions. You spit words with venom, assuming she wants to turn things around. But is your goal to be right or to explain what you think? Is your goal to win or to improve your relationship?

You see if you make her furious, and you didn’t mean to, and you’re lucky enough to realize it, what are you left with? A day in which your words hurt someone you value. The only way from there to a lasting relationship is admitting you fcuked up too. Was it her fault in the situation? Oh yes, but your job, if you want to benefit from responsibility, is to focus on your part. The part you can improve.

3. When You Blame, Focus on Yourself

The greatest power in taking responsibility is agency.

When you blame, you deny yourself that power. If it’s not your fault, you won’t think about changing it. If you’re poor due to a greedy government or high housing prices, you may never think about how to earn more money.

Getting anything in life starts from finding out you can get it.

And that’s the whole issue. It’s simple, yet so hard to notice in an environment where no one has money. But if you go a bit deeper, 99% of people who complain about money do exactly nothing to change their circumstances. It’s possible that even if they would they would stay poor, but it’s your responsibility to check that.

Ultimately, you’re responsible for living the life you want.  You’re responsible for how your statements are understood.  You choose how to spend your time.  I know it’s hard, but it’s also powerful.

That’s why it’s so important to work on moments when you know you’re blaming something or someone else. That’s when resources are wasted.  Otherwise, you could start looking for a solution.

4. Emotions and Reactions

Your emotions and feelings are your responsibility.

If someone pissed you off, you let yourself get pissed off.  You did most of the work, maybe even all of it. I’m not talking about an objective assessment of whether someone behaved okay. 

Does it matter? 

It’s you who ends up red with rage like a beet. And that’s exactly what you are, a beet.

Someone took control over your emotions with a few words. And here’s the key moment. If you think it’s the fault of that bad, nefarious person, you do nothing about it. But if you recognize that you’re responsible for your reaction, you can change it.

Maybe it would be better to respond calmly to the provocation.

Or maybe there was no provocation at all. What’s there to worry about? Someone tried to throw you off balance, but they failed. Good for you.

You can control your reactions, only as a result of taking responsibility for them.

5. Be Careful with Words

It’s unfair.

On one hand, I say that you’re responsible for how someone reacts to your words.  On the other, you’re also responsible for your reactions. What’s this about? Are you supposed to be the alpha and omega?  Mother Teresa of the oppressed?  The short answer is – yes. 

Because other people don’t have your knowledge and practice.  And indeed, if you get upset with a client and lose them, that’s your problem.  Sure, maybe you wouldn’t have gotten upset in their shoes, but you see the consequences of your words. Your task isn’t to teach others how to behave but to behave in a way that achieves your intended goal.

Words have power and taking responsibility for them gives that power to you.

Taking responsibility increases the sense of agency over your life.  But don’t overdo it.  You don’t have to be Jesus Christ and take responsibility for everyone.  Start with yourself.  Then take care of your family. And then your community. 

Show us how bravely you handle solving your problems before you start preaching to others.

The source of wealth is inside you.

But to realize its potential you must know who you are. After years of searching, I found a tool that helped me understand myself — a personal journal.

Get My Free Journaling Course to discover who you are, what you want, and how to get it.

Start with 5 minutes a day.

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