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Fear of failure kept me from starting for years. One remarkably simple reframe made trying cheaper than waiting - and things moved.
You want a new phone. No, you want a new house. No, wait. Now, you want a new flat screen TV, oh no, now it's a car. Second, later, you want to be a writer. Right after dreaming about traveling the world. And then you wake up.
Everyone wants to change the world, but few accept that changing anything always starts with oneself. People know everything about anything, and they want to fix it, yet they can't fix their shit. I used to be a big proponent of fixing everything besides myself, but luckily life showed me what was happening.
Courage is not the absence of fear but fuel you can train. How to convert fear of failure, judgment and change into forward motion.
We made a mistake when we took responsibility for our creativity. Now, whenever the results are not as planned, we feel doomed. And if we have succeeded in the past, we torment ourselves with thoughts like, "What if my great success is behind me?" However, if we assume we are the creative spark, there is no other way of thinking.
Life is wild. It's infinitely complex, so you never know what happens next. Don't you hate repeating the same mistakes all over again? Don't you have enough of purposeless wandering? Don't you feel something is wrong when you see all those people succeed while you can't get out of bed? How about that anxiety from running out of paper towels?
Question advice to move forward, not to stand still. Success advice is cherry-picked. It’s uncertain. Certainty is a utopia.
Your brain filters reality to match what you focus on. Train it to spot opportunities and you start enjoying life now, not someday.